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Dr. Watson · 03-08-2005, 05:28 PM

Greetings to all TMians. I found great encouragement in TM during those hard times of GRE preparation and decision-waiting. Thank you all. It's now time to post my first message here.

Well, I applied to PhD degree to several EE schools, and I was happy to receive 2 admission offers, one of them came from MIT (got an acceptance e-mail about 2 weeks ago, no info on financial aid yet). I also received one rejection, this one came from my girlfriend. I feel so bad ... We have been together for more than 2 years, but everything is over now. I have always tried to be good, kind, generous, forgiving, but it seems that all these qualities have little value with girls. I guess I need to learn how to be cruel, angry, violent, proud, and lazy -- I will be irresistable to girls then. I also need to take on drinking and smoking. Or maybe I need to go to the show business and sing that stupid love songs? Every girl will adore me then - they'll see that I am a real man, a hero, not some ... engineer ... Sorry for being bitter, this is just the way I feel right now. Of course, I am happy to be admitted, but I thought that I would be much more happy than I am now. So if some of you did not get admitted to your dream universities, I think that there might other things in your life to be happy about...

My profile is

GPA: 4.0

GRE: 1550

TOEFL: 280

Work experience: 5 years

Publications: 2 good ones, 8 average ones
+ other things like scholarships, sports, languages, ...

scheng75 · 03-08-2005, 05:35 PM

Congratulations on MIT! That is most likely a dream school for you. Thanks for posting your story and welcome to TM

. Sorry about your heartbreak and no, I don't think you need to become cruel, violent or take up drinking in order to keep a girl. If you have great qualities that have gone unappreciated, that doesn't mean those qualities are worthless, you just haven't found the person to appreciate them yet.

Good luck in your future endeavors!

omegaella4u · 03-08-2005, 05:39 PM

Congrats on ur MIT admission Dr.Watson.Just remember that everything happens for a reason,take heart and continue being ur good self, if u want to change then change for the better.True love will surely find u.Cheers mate.All the best.

Dragonfinity · 03-08-2005, 05:51 PM

Wow, talk about an overreaction from obviously an extremely intelligent person. If you were together for 2 years, there is a substantive reason why she broke up with you. Have you asked her? If she wanted the "cool" guy, then she wouldn't have stuck around you so long (of course, I am assuming from your comments that you don't consider yourself in that category).

You will be just fine. You are clearly capable of a successful relationship because you have been in one already. How old are you? If you are only 21, like many on here, you aren't ready for a lifelong committment anyway because you will still go through many changes.

Further, you will clearly be extremely successful, and possibly quite well off if you end up in industry. You will find plenty of women, and, from personal experience, one of the best looking women I know is an engineer. She met her husband in grad school!!!

Best of luck, and I hope you feel better.

C

Econ · 03-08-2005, 06:17 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dr. Watson

My profile is

GPA: 4.0

GRE: 1550

TOEFL: 280

Work experience: 5 years

Publications: 2 good ones, 8 average ones
+ other things like scholarships, sports, languages, ...

With that profile ... I am in love with you

.

Just kidding Dr., I am sure that other / better girls will love you for what you really are

bubobi · 03-08-2005, 06:37 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dr. Watson

I have always tried to be good, kind, generous, forgiving, but it seems that all these qualities have little value with girls.

from many observations (and my personal experience), girls don't really like guys that too good, too kind, too generous, and too forgiving - at least, while there are girls, but not women

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dr. Watson

I guess I need to learn how to be cruel, angry, violent, proud, and lazy

cruel, angy - from time to time;
violent - skip it;
proud and lazy - it depends

Nevertheless, what's the chance that the problem is in your going to grad school rather than in you

cliff23 · 03-08-2005, 06:39 PM

Congrats on MIT!! You should be exceedingly happy. The gf thing means you just get to start your life all over again, completely, which is exciting. Think of all the wonderful people you will get to meet now, instead of being tied down! Look on it all as a fresh new world

ChoBaka · 03-08-2005, 07:15 PM

Congratulations on a well-earned difficult admit!

And sorry about your girlfriend leaving you. And no, there's no need for you to become cruel, violent, or lazy. Anger is a little different...you need to show anger every once in a while, although not in violent or scary ways, to communicate effectively.

Lots of girls like guys who are 'bad boys' but that's probably not the type of girl you'd be happy with. Hope you meet someone who's into intellect and all that jazz, cause you seem to have lots of it!

THEBESTUCANGET · 03-08-2005, 07:18 PM

Hello Dr.,
My advice: CONGRATS and Dont worry, become a Grad from MIT and girls would follow you like there is no tomorrow.
( i believe my verse is out of order, but u got my message right)

One more thing, hats off to your amazing profile.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dragonfinity

How old are you? If you are only 21, like many on here, you aren't ready for a lifelong committment anyway because you will still go through many changes.

Hi dragon,
he has 5 years of work experience, so he must probably be 26 ( my guess, pretty young though).

Ronnie2005 · 03-08-2005, 07:34 PM

Hi! First of all, congrat on your admit!!! After reading your profile, I know why I was rejected, and I feel much better now!!! (it's not that i'm not good enough, it's just that you are WAY TOO GOOD!)

Hey, about your girlfriend's issue. I have one advice--you dont' have to change anything right now. I believe you're perfectly fine (assuming that still haven't changed from a non-smoke, non-drink, non-violent and gentleman-like guy to the completely opposite!) You're now going to grad school, the people you meet will be more of your kind, and you will definitely meet friends there.

Just remember, you are really fine right now. Don't over-react by shifting your personality 180 degree all of a sudden. The happiest moments of a relationship is when you can really communicate with your soul-mate who understrand your TRUE SELF!!

BTW, I heard of an opposite story. There was a guy who got into dentistry (with good prospects) and his GF forced him to either terminate the relationship or get married right away. (Of course, what the girl wanted is a wedding!)

Do you think this is love then? It's too complicated for me to answer, but I think it's a good chance for you to have some reflection....

03-08-2005, 05:28 PM	#1 (permalink)
Dr. Watson Eager! Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Baker Street 221B Posts: 44	Accepted by MIT, rejected by girlfriend Greetings to all TMians. I found great encouragement in TM during those hard times of GRE preparation and decision-waiting. Thank you all. It's now time to post my first message here. Well, I applied to PhD degree to several EE schools, and I was happy to receive 2 admission offers, one of them came from MIT (got an acceptance e-mail about 2 weeks ago, no info on financial aid yet). I also received one rejection, this one came from my girlfriend. I feel so bad ... We have been together for more than 2 years, but everything is over now. I have always tried to be good, kind, generous, forgiving, but it seems that all these qualities have little value with girls. I guess I need to learn how to be cruel, angry, violent, proud, and lazy -- I will be irresistable to girls then. I also need to take on drinking and smoking. Or maybe I need to go to the show business and sing that stupid love songs? Every girl will adore me then - they'll see that I am a real man, a hero, not some ... engineer ... Sorry for being bitter, this is just the way I feel right now. Of course, I am happy to be admitted, but I thought that I would be much more happy than I am now. So if some of you did not get admitted to your dream universities, I think that there might other things in your life to be happy about... My profile is GPA: 4.0 GRE: 1550 TOEFL: 280 Work experience: 5 years Publications: 2 good ones, 8 average ones + other things like scholarships, sports, languages, ...

03-08-2005, 05:35 PM	#2 (permalink)
scheng75 TestMagic fan! Moderator Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: CA Posts: 660	Re: Accepted by MIT, rejected by girlfriend Congratulations on MIT! That is most likely a dream school for you. Thanks for posting your story and welcome to TM . Sorry about your heartbreak and no, I don't think you need to become cruel, violent or take up drinking in order to keep a girl. If you have great qualities that have gone unappreciated, that doesn't mean those qualities are worthless, you just haven't found the person to appreciate them yet. Good luck in your future endeavors! _ _ _ _ SIG _ _ _ _ Vice President The Economics Fan Club Memberships are exclusive and subject to a deep appreciation of the finer points.

03-08-2005, 05:39 PM	#3 (permalink)
omegaella4u Eager! Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 54	Re: Accepted by MIT, rejected by girlfriend Congrats on ur MIT admission Dr.Watson.Just remember that everything happens for a reason,take heart and continue being ur good self, if u want to change then change for the better.True love will surely find u.Cheers mate.All the best.

03-08-2005, 05:51 PM	#4 (permalink)
Dragonfinity Socratic realist Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Georgia, USA Posts: 220	Re: Accepted by MIT, rejected by girlfriend Wow, talk about an overreaction from obviously an extremely intelligent person. If you were together for 2 years, there is a substantive reason why she broke up with you. Have you asked her? If she wanted the "cool" guy, then she wouldn't have stuck around you so long (of course, I am assuming from your comments that you don't consider yourself in that category). You will be just fine. You are clearly capable of a successful relationship because you have been in one already. How old are you? If you are only 21, like many on here, you aren't ready for a lifelong committment anyway because you will still go through many changes. Further, you will clearly be extremely successful, and possibly quite well off if you end up in industry. You will find plenty of women, and, from personal experience, one of the best looking women I know is an engineer. She met her husband in grad school!!! Best of luck, and I hope you feel better. C

03-08-2005, 06:39 PM	#7 (permalink)
cliff23 Within my grasp! Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: USA Posts: 243	Re: Accepted by MIT, rejected by girlfriend Congrats on MIT!! You should be exceedingly happy. The gf thing means you just get to start your life all over again, completely, which is exciting. Think of all the wonderful people you will get to meet now, instead of being tied down! Look on it all as a fresh new world

03-08-2005, 07:15 PM	#8 (permalink)
ChoBaka Within my grasp! Join Date: Dec 2004 Posts: 183	Re: Accepted by MIT, rejected by girlfriend Congratulations on a well-earned difficult admit! And sorry about your girlfriend leaving you. And no, there's no need for you to become cruel, violent, or lazy. Anger is a little different...you need to show anger every once in a while, although not in violent or scary ways, to communicate effectively. Lots of girls like guys who are 'bad boys' but that's probably not the type of girl you'd be happy with. Hope you meet someone who's into intellect and all that jazz, cause you seem to have lots of it!

03-08-2005, 07:34 PM	#10 (permalink)
Ronnie2005 Eager! Join Date: Feb 2005 Posts: 72	Re: Accepted by MIT, rejected by girlfriend Hi! First of all, congrat on your admit!!! After reading your profile, I know why I was rejected, and I feel much better now!!! (it's not that i'm not good enough, it's just that you are WAY TOO GOOD!) Hey, about your girlfriend's issue. I have one advice--you dont' have to change anything right now. I believe you're perfectly fine (assuming that still haven't changed from a non-smoke, non-drink, non-violent and gentleman-like guy to the completely opposite!) You're now going to grad school, the people you meet will be more of your kind, and you will definitely meet friends there. Just remember, you are really fine right now. Don't over-react by shifting your personality 180 degree all of a sudden. The happiest moments of a relationship is when you can really communicate with your soul-mate who understrand your TRUE SELF!! BTW, I heard of an opposite story. There was a guy who got into dentistry (with good prospects) and his GF forced him to either terminate the relationship or get married right away. (Of course, what the girl wanted is a wedding!) Do you think this is love then? It's too complicated for me to answer, but I think it's a good chance for you to have some reflection....

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