Long-Distance Relationships...

[averageaverage]

So many of us are moving to new places. Such an exciting period of life! Moving.

But, that means that some of us will be physically separated from girl/boyfriends...



Your girl/boyfriends have been supportive throughout the process, and now you got a couple of acceptances.

And the day you got notified, you had such a wonderful dinner and celebrated what you accomplished.

After the wonderful dinner, you two realized that that means you'll be separated... Cuz you move and he/she stays.

"What will happen to us?" You got headache. You can't be somehow fully happy. But you're rather depressed.

Life's tough. Life's difficult. Wonder getting As in higher level math and econ classes is much easier than life itself.

Where are we going? Do we need to sacrifice something to get something else??

Four days till Valentine's day... Is it our last Valentine's day? Where will we end up? What will we be doing a year from now??

[Zmoney]

average, I hear you on this one

[jeeves0923]

Very poetic average...

My girlfriend and I have been planning for this for a long time. We're going to be apart for 1 year, and it's gonna suck. However, I'm glad we've talked about it and figured out that it is worth it. Luckily she is a very smart person in a field that is still demanding her services, so no matter where I end up, she should be able to either get a job or get into a graduate program.

[tangsiuje]

If you actually plan on leaving your girlfriend/boyfriend, you have probably come to the conclusion that your relationship either isn't worth that much to you (i.e., less than attending that particular school), or that it is so strong that you would be able to maintain a long-distance relationship. If your priority would have been to maintain a physical relationship with your partner, you would obviously have chosen to apply only to schools in places to which your partner could relocate.

If you are actually going to attempt a long-distance relationship, then work out a clear time plan for when you will be able to resume your physical relationship: a relationship which is long-distance "indefinitely" is probably not going to work. I was in a long-distance relationship for 2 years just because there really weren't any alternatives. If my partner had chosen to be away from me (e.g., to do a PhD somewhere were I couldn't possibly make a living), I would interpret this as him not being committed enough to our relationship and it would probably have lasted for a week or so.

[Gmater-1]

You could find a new one

[Erin]

Yeah, it's a difficult situation, but I see people endure long distances for a good long time. Distance will certainly test the relationship and its participants. To put it somewhat colloquially, if you were meant to be together, you will be.

What kind of distance are we talking about here? Plane flight? Train ride? But yeah, it can be tough. No envy here.

[acoma]

this thread was a dead, but lets make it alive again! since decison-time is over, did you make you decision based on your boyfriend/girlfriend as well? how does it work for international couples, when one of them is going to study in US and another stays in Europe or Asia?