How to repel "Dont worry you will get in" messages?

[basco]

I am tired of this - and I am tired a lot. I have applied in 2 cycles, and got rejected so far in every single school I applied. My advisors, letter writers, professors all cannot understand why, but it happens.

 

I know the luck and bla bla bla blaaaa but this is goddamn depressing.

 

I want to punch in the face every single person who just says "Dont worry, its random, you will get in!" I am really tired of it. How do I repel these people? I just told a very close friend of mine to just go **** himself because he repeated the useless advice.

[Wahasky]

Honestly I get it but what else can they say? They're just trying to be there for you, and even though it's not helpful there's really not a whole let else to do. Best thing might be to just not bring it up/talk about it for now.

[SnacksHarrison]

The only way to avoid this is to not tell people what you're going through. Avoid the subject unless talking to other people who have applied/are applying.

[rtj]

Don’t become bitter because of outcomes you can’t totally control in life. Your friends are being supportive, and your friendships are more important than getting into a PhD. Keep grinding with a good attitude.

[therealslimkt]

Just don't talk to people about the process.

[TheDeadFlagBlue]

Getting waitlisted by Yale is a great outcome. If that happens at one top 10 program out of 3 (?) that have announced thus far, I think that in expectation you will end up attending one.

 

This is a different message than saying "don't worry". If you had been rejected by 3, that would be devastating but a waitlist is actually good out of 3 decisions!