Hi guys, could you tell me your opinion on this essay?
I appreciate any comments.
Tnx, Natalia
I do not agree with the statement that parents should make important decisions for their older teenage children. Adolescents need for independence must be respected, otherwise he will express negativistic behaviour.
The major task of adolescence is to achieve a secure sense of self. It is partly achieved through move from dependency to independency. School experience accelerates and intensifies the degree of separation from the family. Adolescents feel that they live in a world unfamiliar to parents. The most important relationships for an adolescent are peers; the real world is a school. Adolescent see negativism as a way to express their independence.
Generation gap between parents and children emerges as parents, who often in their mid-forties, have to deal with the turmoil that accompanies adolescence plus make adjustments to work, marriage and their own parents. Some parents cannot accept the need for increased independence of their teenagers; they want to maintain control of their children. Parents’ pressure may force an adolescent to become rebellious, and even may cause a psychiatric disorder such as depression or anxiety disorder.
But most adolescents are receptive to parent’s approval or disapproval. If adolescent feels that he is treated with respect, the generation gap may be bridged successfully. Then, instead of making decision for their child, parents may give reasonable advises and expect that they will be followed.
In sum, a respectful attitude toward children and a gentle leading in form of reasonable advises can do more good than auctorial attitude.