I feel the pain...Yup, we are all learning how impatient we are, so you're not alone! I would say given that you are planning on moving there anyways, may be you should word your email in such a way that you are both asking for an update, as well as expressing interest in working with her on a project irrespective of the outcome of this cycle. I believe this will go a long way to helping you gain admission next cycle, should things not work out. Depending on how intensive the research role is, you may even want to consider forgoing the extra income for the sake of gaining a more comprehensive research experience within the next couple of months. You could also, through this, be introduced to other faculty at the school...So, there are many advantages to giving up employment, if it is financially feasible - only you are able to make that decision. I am personally considering doing something similar should I not match this cycle. But in my case I would have to resign from my job and relocate to do this, so sacrifices, sacrifices...